No man is much pleased with a companion, who does not increase, in some respect, his fondness for himself.
Meaning
Writing in The Rambler, Johnson observed that we gravitate toward people who make us feel better about ourselves. It is a candid look at why bonds form. Use it by asking whether you leave friends feeling more capable, and by noticing which friends do that for you.
Source: The Rambler, No. 104 (1751)
About the author
(1709–1784) was an English writer, critic, and lexicographer best known for compiling one of the first comprehensive English dictionaries. His work helped standardize the English language. Johnson’s essays, biographies, and literary criticism reflect his wit and intellect. He was a central figure in 18th-century literary circles. Samuel Johnson’s influence continues to be felt in language and literature.
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