Abilities wither under criticism, they blossom under encouragement.
Meaning
From his guide to dealing with people, Carnegie says harsh feedback shrinks talent while praise grows it. At work or home, catch someone doing something well and say so specifically this week; notice how their effort and your own attitude toward them both improve.
Source: How to Win Friends and Influence People (1936)
About the author
(1888–1955) was an American writer and lecturer known for his influential work in personal development and communication skills. His book "How to Win Friends and Influence People" remains one of the best-selling self-help books of all time. Carnegie’s teachings focus on interpersonal skills, confidence, and effective communication. He believed that success depends largely on how well individuals relate to others. His courses and principles have helped millions improve their personal and professional relationships. Dale Carnegie’s legacy continues to shape modern self-help literature and leadership training worldwide.
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